Crises and loss
Crises in life
Very different experiences can be perceived as a strong burden:
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a separation
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the loss of a loved one
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loss of job
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a serious illness
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the sudden loss of valuable skills
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a long-term emotional burden from outside (e.g. accompanying or caring for a seriously ill relative)
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and many other changes in life
Examples from crisis coaching
Half a year ago, Anna's best friend died. In the first few months after the loss, Anna distracted herself and worked long hours. Later, she noticed that she was extremely exhausted, had difficulty concentrating at work, and couldn't find peace of mind either. After a long conversation with her friends, Anna wanted to give grief a chance and engage in coaching to address her loss and her previous coping strategies.
After an unexpected dismissal, Sebastian feels intense inner pressure, recurring fears about the future, and frequent feelings of powerlessness. The strategies that usually help Sebastian seem ineffective, and he feels increasingly unable to cope with the situation. Self-doubt and worry slowly spread to his relationship and social contacts, and he decides to seek coaching.
Elisa lives with her husband, who is severely limited by multiple heart attacks. In addition to her full-time job, she spends every free minute caring for him. Sometimes she suddenly gets angry at him and immediately feels ashamed. Elisa doesn't allow herself a break from her responsibilities. During the coronavirus pandemic, she is increasingly reaching her emotional limits. When she comes across an advertisement for crisis coaching, she quickly tries out a trial session.
"We all have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one."
Confucius
(Why this quote?)
How can crisis coaching help?
In crisis management coaching, I will sensitively guide you out of uncertainty, fear, and powerlessness – toward acceptance and new perspectives.
Life situations in which we are under significant stress over an extended period of time are a major challenge. I will help you develop self-compassion, reflect on your previous strategies, strengthen your resources, and develop your own long-term solutions to your problems.
Possible coaching questions include:
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How do I find support and orientation in a difficult life situation?
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How can I get back into action despite situation X ?
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How do I increase my self-confidence in situation X ?
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How do I classify the situation I find myself in?
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How can I gradually bring more lightness and joy back into my life?
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How can I take care of my own well-being without feeling guilty?
Approaches in coaching
The following elements have proven effective for crisis management coaching:
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Resource-oriented work and self-esteem-enhancing reflection
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Critical review of the current crisis strategy for its advantages and disadvantages and its suitability
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Biographical work and classification of events and influences
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Uncovering unhelpful beliefs and developing new, helpful beliefs
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Understanding and appreciating your own feelings and needs
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Constructive work with anger, shame and guilt
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Develop a concrete crisis strategy that can be implemented step by step
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Inclusion of elements from the field of grief counseling and writing therapy to promote acceptance and letting go
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Activation of alternative solution options